The Weight Loss Cycle… Sound Familiar?

The Weight Loss Cycle… Sound Familiar?

– Eat “clean”
– Exercise hard
– See some small change
– Plateau
– Work harder
– Fall of the bandwagon and commit “death by chocolate”
– Get back on and try even harder again
– Wonder why it doesnt work despite all the hard work
– More chocolate
– Repeat 5 times trying keto, paleo, crossfit, vegan, or whatever the latest craze is
– Get a trainer
– Enjoy the conversation but not see results
– Decide its genetics / takes too much time / just isnt for you

Right?
It’s such a frustrating cycle…

Ive been thinking lately about cycles in life and how we often have the same frustrating or uncomfortable scenario come back around all the time.

We see many women go through this over and over – they do the work to lose weight and then gain it back. And while this is happening again and again the inner story usually turns to –

Its not fair…
I try so hard…
I’m doing all the right things…

Followed by – blaming.

You blame your hubby for not supporting you by creating the space you need to exercise or prep or relax.

You blame your kids for being so demanding and needing so much time and for being constantly on you.

You blame your parents for the 150 reasons that they weren’t good enough and didnt do a bette job.

You blame your trainer or the online celebrity program that you paid for because it didnt deliver the results.

Everywhere, the finger gets pointed except squarely where it belongs –

Back at you.

I know this because this is what I have been doing lately. Pointing the finger at all and sundry because they arent getting me, arent helping me, arent supporting me, arent magically somehow knowing what Im going through and what I want (even though Im not really telling them clearly).

When the hard truth is –

It ALL on me.
In the way I THINK…
And in the ACTION my thinking makes me take.

Because here’s the thing: cycles have nothing to do with the CIRCUMSTANCES of your life.

You didnt gain the weight back after the last 8 week challenge, online program or diet thing you tried because of time, money or other life circumstances.

Im not saying these arent factors, just that they arent the CAUSE. They are the RESULT.

The true cause, every time and without fail is –

How you think.
What you believe.
And what actions this causes you to take.

Lately I have found myself wondering how it is we are able to make a lot of money, but always end up falling back to our “normal” level.

Its fucking frustrating. We work HARD. So why the fuck doesnt it grow like we want it?

Its not even that our normal level is bad – we live a very comfortable lifestyle. Its just that we haven’t set a new normal in a few years now. And the more I dig into it, the more I do the inner work on it, the more I can see that its totally about what we believe is possible and what “must” be done to create it.

One of the inner beliefs that I have long held onto around money, is that to be next level successful means sacrificing family life to do all the work required. Ive had several friends and mentors over the years who are multimillionaires, who all suffered breakdowns of their family unit.

I’ve realised how much this belief has caused me to drop everything the moment I THINK it could impact things at home.

Because the reality is – there are lots of successful people that enjoy a good home life!

So if youre currently riding the weight loss merry-go-round, frustrated, blaming and generally wondering what the fuck to do –

Its time to change your thinking and beliefs.

You can eat all the freakin salad in the world, but if you cant align your beliefs and thinking with the actions that you need to continually take – you wont ever lock those results in place.

And remember, right now there are thousands of women who are experiencing the exact life challenges you are – and are still in shit hot shape.

What is story that you KEEP on telling yourself, over and over, that is stopping you from locking in the results?

Ryan

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LIFE IS HAPPENING FOR YOU NOT TO YOU

LIFE IS HAPPENING FOR YOU NOT TO YOU

I know there is that feeling, when youre DEEP down in the pits of whatever challenge is going on for you right now – maybe its your weight loss challenge, maybe its your not sleeping baby, maybe its work, or maybe its feeling numb in your relationship –

Whatever it is, usually there is that feeling that its happening TO you…

That life is somehow fucking with you in a major way, like spite from some unseen god that is up there pulling the strings to make life feel hard.

I have felt like this a lot this past year. One of the reasons that Jett’s waking has been so hard on Stacey, is that he wouldn’t come to me at night time.

With Charlize, night times were a complete 50/50 affair. When she needed feeding it was Stace’s turn. When she woke to burp or fart or for whatever other reason, it was my turn. I always wanted to be involved and supportive in this part and so it was.

With Jett however, it was very different.

Not only did he not want me to comfort him at night, but he would physically resist me with pretty much all his little might!

He would scream, facepalm me, wriggle and squirm and basically spend the whole time pointing in the direction of our bedroom where he knew Stacey was. If he did fall asleep with me, I think mostly it was exhaustion not comfort.

Of course this made Stace’s life really hard, but was also been challenging for me.

Why wont my kid let me comfort him? Why does he push me away?

“Why hast thou forsaken me, oh lord??!!”

We had our first major shift with Jett’s sleep after seeing Ashja, a woman we have dubbed “The Baby Whisperer” for the instant shifts that she brought about in our life and night time routine.

The full story is long, but one of the things that came out of our sessions was that Jett didnt feel comforted by me, because I was unable to accept my own sensitive nature.

You see, even though I would go to Jett when he cried at night, even though I would pick him up, whisper soothing sounds or hum or sing or any of the 50 different things I tried to comfort him with –

INWARDLY, my feeling was different. Inwardly, it was more of a “get over it” or “toughen up” kind of energy.

Now i wouldn’t have considered myself one of those dad’s that expects my son to be tough. I’ve heard dad’s at the park tell their toddler to “toughen up” after a fall – thats not something I believe in or do.

But at the same time – I’ve always rejected or not liked to admit that I’M sensitive. It wasnt something that was encouraged or rewarded when I was a kid, but in truth –

Im sensitive to food.
Im sensitive to not getting enough sleep.
Im sensitive to peoples feelings.
Im sensitive to nature and the world around me.
And Im a really introspective thinker and sensitive to my thoughts and how people would react to them.

Im a sensitive dude!!

And I tried to cover this up to myself for years. Lifting heavy weights, getting big, muay thai and martial arts, training until I bled or vomited, working my ass to the bone – all in an effort to ignore this fact.

So when Jett cried, it was triggering a dislike of my OWN sensitive nature. I couldn’t accept it in me, and so I couldn’t accept it in him.

I had to love and accept that part of myself, so that Jett could feel loved and accepted himself.

Today our relationship is completely different. The level of love and connection between us is immeasurably more compared to what it was just a few months ago (thank you again Ashja!)

The point of all this is that for months and months I was silently – as well as NOT so silently – resisting the night time situation. I tried not to bitch about it, I worked on my mindset daily to not get dragged down by it. But truth is – I felt like that spiteful god in the sky was fucking with me!!

I realise now that the situation was 100% and totally happening FOR ME.

For my growth.

For my healing.

To deepen my love and connection with my son and the rest of my family.

No matter how hard it has been – I would do it again ten times over to gain what I have.

Whatever you are going through right now – whether you can see it or whether it is hidden from you –

It is happening FOR you. There is a gift in it that can be had, if you can just let yourself see it… A lesson or a learning that will take life to new levels.

Step through the resistance to what is and ask yourself what lesson or the gift is there waiting for you.

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Today we launch our new book that is going to change the game of weight loss for driven women.

And before I go on, yes you read right – the book is for driven women.

Sorry for all y’all out there that refer to yourselves as “lazy” or if your goal is just to “feel better”… This book is not for you.

This is a book written by a driven woman (and her driven hubby) – FOR driven women. We arent here to “just be healthy” or “get fitter”… We want to be hot as fuck PLUS have an on fire marriage PLUS make all the monies –

Were here to live fully and we want to have it ALL in life. 👩‍🎤❤️👑

If that’s not you, hey thats ok… You just may find what’s in these pages too intense… Who knows, maybe it will inspire you to level up to whats inside you! 🤔

With that said we’re so excited to introduce:

The Unstoppable Body! The book for driven women who want to lose the weight… FAST… in a way they love.

Now this is NOT one of those “free guides” that you see online full of useless fitness facts that you could get off any website… No, no. This book is the combined 28 years that Ryan and I have been – not only IN the health and fitness industry – but LEADERS in the H&F industry.

Im willing to bet that more than half of what you read in this book you wont have ever seen before – probably more like three quarters…

And, not only that, since being driven also usually means being BIZ-AY – its also designed to be read in a day or two. Maximum results comes not from how many pages in a book, but from actually DOING whats in the book.

This baby is designed to be bang for your buck sorta stuff.

But, just because its packed with cutting edge info – well, more like cutting edge experience – doesnt mean its going to be expensive. In fact, I think you will find it so ridiculously affordable that you wont be able to think of a reason to not get it.

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If this morning felt like a struggle and that nothing went as planned its NOT because there is something wrong with the world.

If this morning felt like a struggle and that nothing went as planned its NOT because there is something wrong with the world.

Its not because you dont have the support you need…

Its not because its not fair or that its all too much…

But you might still find yourself wondering either inside or aloud – 

When is it all going to just work?

Which I totally understand, as Ive had a couple of those days lately.

Wondering when all the hard work and grind is going to pay off… wondering when the flow will come back like it was once before.

The good news is you can shift it in an instant.

All you need to do, as I did, is to realise how amazingly unbelievably perfect life ALREADY is, right now and in this moment…

Realise that you have had complete and 100% control over your situation every moment until this point and that you chose this for yourself…

Accept that where you are is EXACTLY what you have asked for and allowed and that you can right now, today, choose another outcome if you so wish.

And FEEL some simple gratitude for just how amazing the people and things you have in your life right this second actually are… 

That fun, play, levity and joy are within your grasp THIS INSTANT if you choose to allow them…

And allow them you MUST! Stop trying to be somewhere else, in the future or the past maybe, an imaginary “better time”… Not because you shouldnt dream of what you want, but because youre missing the perfection of what you have in this moment.

Can you allow that today?

Can you accept and appreciate that, really, if youre honest, you actually already have SO MUCH available to you…  love, support, opportunity, connection, fun… and that the “thing” that you wished you had or were in those daydreams wont make you more complete than you are this moment?

Wont make you more happy…

Wont make you more loveable…

Wont make you more attractive…

Wont make you more full…

NOT unless you can allow yourself to feel that happiness, love, attractiveness and fullness right NOW.

If you’ve been wishing your body looked and felt different, try forcing it all you want… though to be honest I hope it never works because if it does you will have just bought yourself a daily practice you fucking hate… how has that been working out so far?

Or you can move into love and acceptance – even appreciation – for how well your body has managed your choices till now (which lets face it, you know haven’t been the best) and move forward from this place with POWER.

Power doesnt come from information… its not from reading about diet and exercise. It doesnt even come from knowledge, since knowing what to do doesnt mean you will do it.

Power comes from being able to accept that its been your choices until now that have resulted in the body and life youre living –

Having compassion for yourself for making those choices and for still not yet learning the lesson that you need to learn –

And then making a new choice today – not from a place of fear or doubt – but from a place of love.

Of course you can choose to stay stuck in the struggle… in the story of “not fair” or “too hard”… but since youre choosing anyway –

You might as well choose what you want.

PS

A new book launches this week that is going to change the game of weight loss for driven women.

And before I go on, yes you read right – the book is for driven women.

Sorry for all y’all out there that refer to yourselves as “lazy” or if your goal is just to “feel better”… This book is not for you.

This is a book written by a driven woman (and her driven hubby) – FOR driven women. We arent here to “just be healthy” or “get fitter” or something as boring as that. We want to be hot as fuck PLUS have an on fire marriage PLUS make all the monies –

Were here to live fully – we want to have it all in life.

And since this is our show we want to work with other women that want the same. 

So the book drops this week… Now this is NOT one of those “free guides” that you see online full of useless fitness facts that you could get off any website… No, no. This book is the combined 28 years that Ryan and I have been – not only IN the health and fitness industry – but LEADERS in the H&F industry.

Im willing to bet that more than half of what you read in this book you wont have ever seen before – probably more like three quarters…

And, not only that, since being driven also usually means being BIZ-AY – its also designed to be read in a day or two. Maximum results comes not from how many pages in a book, but from actually DOING whats in the book.

This baby is designed to be bang for your buck sorta stuff.

But, just because its packed with cutting edge info – well, more like cutting edge experience – doesnt mean its going to be expensive. In fact, I think you will find it so ridiculously affordable that you wont be able to think of a reason to not get it.

Plus, it will be even more heavily discounted for only the first 100 women to take action.

So keep your eyes open for when it drops and be one of the lucky 100 to get your discounted copy.

S&R

NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO LIKE YOU

NOT EVERYONE IS GOING TO LIKE YOU

I was just walking down near the coast when someone pulled up their car and tried to make fun of me.

Its funny how we can sense weird or potentially confrontational situations before they happen… I got a vibe from the car that was coming in the opposite direction and looked straight at the driver.

He had an odd smile on his face, like he was in on a practical joke or something and I noticed the car start to slow down as it approached me.

My heart rate went up just a tiny bit as the car stopped next to me… the guy in the back put his head out the window and yelled in a sarcastic voice “huge muscles man”.

The car erupted in laugher as it drove away and I got on with my day.

Then I noticed something…

10 minutes later I was still thinking about it…

Off and on, I would get flashes of anger or aggression…

Why is this even bothering me, i asked myself?

See the thing is, I used to be very self conscious. I had a low sense of self worth and really took everything that everyone said to heart.

I would pretend of course that this wasn’t the case, but the truth was the internally I really allowed things to get to me, when I felt excluded, judged or rejected.

This was my way for years… and I allowed it to affect my behaviour in so many ways, the most common of which was that I stopped being ME and instead tried to work out who to be to get approval.

I shut down my genius and my talents and my light.

Then one day I realised the truth –

That I only felt this way because I didnt value myself enough, because I didnt feel worthy of more.

AND that not everyone was going to like me, no matter how much I tried to be what I thought they wanted.

So instead I loved me more… and decided that people can get fucked if they didnt like me.

Its funny though, how on occasion, those old mindsets we have shifted and healed still on occasion poke their heads through!

I share this because we talk to women EVERY DAY who feel they cant be themselves when around friends or family.

The most common scenario is to be with parents or in laws who ask a million questions – or just downright make fun – about your choice to do something for your body.

“Why are you eating so much raw food?”

“Why are you only drinking juice?”

“Go on, stop being silly / boring / OCD about your diet and just have (whatever cheap junk is on the table)”

Ever dealt with this?

The thing to realise is:

1. You can ALWAYS be in your power and simply make the choice you want to make, without justification, reason or apology, other than “because I choose to”

2. That these comments always come from scared, small people, who are terrified of your decision to be yourself, intimidated by your ability to OWN your choices — and they need to project this onto you to build themselves up.

You can choose to be triggered –

Or you can choose to stay in your power and simply feel compassion for the fact that they dont love themselves enough and doubt their own worth.

Just be YOU!

Ryan

OWN THAT SHIT

OWN THAT SHIT

Sometimes you feel that no matter how hard you work and no matter what you try, the results just seem to always elude you.

You make a plan, you push, do the work, you struggle and kick some butt –

And you get a result but it is just so fleeting and short lived that you end up wondering what the fucking point of all that work was!?

Know what I mean?

Of course you do…

I’ve been feeling this today.

Even though its so stupidly easy for me to stay in awesome shape – like, easy to the point of it doesnt even matter if I binge on cake or chips, I STILL stay look and feel freakin’ awesome –

Its not always true with money.

Money is always something that gets made and then slips through my fingers just as quickly… It doesnt matter how much of it I make, it doesnt matter if it FAR exceeds my expenses –

It just seems to go.

Its not that I dont work hard, Im definitely not afraid of the hard work and grind that results require.

And its not that I dont know what to do, Ive been there and done that before.

As i sat here with this today in my journaling, I got a very clear message from within –

OWN THAT SHIT.

You see, I have been afraid of responsibility since I was a kid. My parents separated when I was young and then mum died a few years later.

I was thrust into the role of carer for my brother and sister…

I was expected to act like a balanced and rational adult and keep my siblings safe, when my body and mind were telling me to play and be rough and go and be alone or with kids my own age.

In my 20’s and 30’s, I could never work out why I couldn’t get ahead to the level I wanted to. I was smart, driven and willing to work… and while I had some success for sure, it wasnt what i knew was possible for me.

I knew I wasnt born for good… I was born for great!

I started to realise that I would use surface level excuses for my sabotage… I would blame others for THEM not taking responsibility… I would look to experts or people in authority to tell me what to do.

All the while, avoiding the responsibility for my results.

It wasnt until I took OWNERSHIP – extreme ownership – like EVERYTHING that I do or dont have in my life is on ME –

That I have begun to see bigger results start to happen.

Which brings me to you…

You really think that your unfair schedule is to blame for you not doing your exercise…

You really think that your hubby / friend / boss or kids are the reason that you arent where you want to be with your body…

You truly believe that you haven’t succeeded in getting
Hot
As
All
Fuck
because of some reason OUTSIDE of you?

You know what Im talking about, dont you.

The crazy thing… is that you ARE capable of taking 100%, ZERO doubts, complete and extreme ownership of your results –

NOW.

And when you do…

When you STEP the fuck UP and start OWNING that shit –

Then all the surface excuses like –

I just like food (or chocolate or other sugary delight) too much…

I’m too busy right now…

I just cant afford it right now…

I dont have time right now –

They just drop away…

And you are free to CRUSH IT and get the results you want.

Oh, one more thing –

If not TODAY –

When?

PS

Ready to own that shit?

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39cm loss in 2 weeks…

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STEP #1 is to RESET your body. Like, literally flick the reset switch from “OFF” to “FAT BURNING MACHINE”.

STEP #2 is to discover your unique food blueprint. Did you know that you have a unique set of rules that exist within your body? But these arent like the “rules” you’ve learnt from the media or other experts… How could an expert know your body better than you?

All you need to do is to tap in to what is ALREDY there inside you – and eat accordingly.

STEP #3 is to CRUSH those mindset blocks and self sabotage. Look, lets be honest you and I – you know that you should stop eating biscuits…

You know that you should exercise…

You know you should make better choices… but –

You dont always do you?

Its not that you arent trying, its that something keeps coming up for you to knock you off the bandwagon.

When you dont do what you know you should – its NOT a food and exercise problem! Its a MINDSET challenge…

And until you rewrite those beliefs –

You Will ALWAYS Fail.

You can never rise above what you believe!

STEP #4 is to put this all together so that you can do it forever YOURSELF. Does your body work the same now as it did before kids? Or as it did 5 years ago? No? Do you think it will work the same in another 5 years? Or after another kid?

Of
Course
NOT!

You change and your needs change too.

So if you follow a one-size-fits-all plan, then EVEN if (and its a big if) you get results –

What happens in a few years when your body changes?

Well its no biggie, as long as youre happy to keep buying plans for the rest of your life!

Once you go through this process then YOU are the trainer… YOU are the expert… YOU are all you will ever need to be able to keep your body how you want it.

This 4 Step plan is what we offer in The Society.

If you feel this is right for you, then PM us now on Facebook and say fuck you to dreaming and hello to living in the body you want.